(Why making your bed every day might be the best thing you ever do)
Do you ever have one of those days where you’re busy busy but at the end of the day feel like you’ve completed or accomplished nothing?
Were you ‘on track’ with your life when you were thrown a gargantuan curveball which threw everything up in the air?
You feel frustrated because you’re spinning your wheels and not actually getting anywhere.
If you’re spinning your wheels on a deadline this is likely to make you feel worse.
Stress sets in, releases cortisol, lowers your ability to focus and tomorrow you’ll get even less done. Then depression sets in, because the date is looming and you aren’t making the progress you’d like. Cortisol affects your sleep, and round we go. Depression and even minor sleep deprivation mean you’re not really looking after yourself as you might, and your brain goes into free-fall.
At times like these your brain needs something to lean on. It needs a baseline of something or things you will achieve every single day so that it has a structure, to not only give you the space to achieve those pesky humaning things, but also on bad days it will give your brain something to ‘tick off’ in the achievements column.
EVERYONE has days like that.
The difference is, the daily routine (as a wellness goal). What I mean by that is, if you have a baseline routine in its simplest format, you’ll go to bed with your brain saying ‘Well, we got that done at least.’
You will no longer go into a stressy depressional freefall when you have days where you can’t do the things you want to get done. Be that illness, family drama, a traumatic change, a financial curveball.
You will subconsciously congratulate yourself on something, every day. And that means your brain is more geared to giving you the space to make a plan. And the good news is,
You already have a daily routine.
Writing it down though, will show you how much time you have to do the things you need to get done.
Don’t over-reach. Start by writing down what you already do every day. Visualise the space in-between as your opportunity.
There’s something about writing something down that makes it REAL.
Here’s an example, try it yourself:
5.20am: Wake up, make bed, wash, brush teeth, dress.
6am: Feed Cats, make coffee, check emails.
10pm: Brush teeth, put on the pjs
10.10pm: Checklist for tomorrow
10.20pm: Sleep meditation, and zzzzzz
This is your brains ‘baseline’; its internal structure for your day. It means that even if you achieve nothing else (i.e. fill the gap), you’ve made your bed and brushed your teeth and to your unconscious brain, that’s a WIN. Sounds ridiculous doesn’t it? but having that baseline means that you don’t go to bed feeling frustrated or depressed which means that the next day you can give it another go.
(Recommended Reading – or Listening!)
‘A New Dawn’ Thirty Days of Wellness by Sammy Dee
Stop resisting the woo, release your inner woo. Woo knows you want it. This beautiful Udemy course encourages you to make the changes that you need to make, or renew the things you used to do but gradually forgot and got lazy about.
The course has several sections, one that talks about daily routine, and how you can improve it. It’s a pretty course, in my kind of way, and its special because it doesn’t drive anything ‘down your throat’ – but rather gives you an ‘absolute beginners introduction’ to wellness practices and says ‘Hey, just try it for thirty days.’
It’s not just a course:
What makes this course unique, is that, as with all her courses, Sammy Dee has made a vast array of matching accessories to go with curriculum:
- A free Trello template
- Several free printable downloads
- A beautiful 30-day workbook
- Several curated YouTube playlists
– just everything you might need to win at wellness!
In terms of the latest ‘trending’ word, ‘wellness’ has really had the last ounce of shit kicked out of it hasn’t it. It’s a tired old thing being kicked to the kerb and the next internet buzzword has already happened (p.s. it’s ‘MANIFEST’ with a scattering of curse words).
This doesn’t make your health any less important. Buzzwords aside, you’ve got to sleep well, you’ve got to feel okay about yourself, and you’ve got to be decent at Adulting. if you’ve ever gone to work on three hours sleep you’ll know what I’m getting at!
The Online Course for Wellness
‘A New Dawn’ will give you a beginners introduction to:
- Journaling for Wellness
- The importance of having a daily routine
- Sleep Hygiene
- The different types of meditative states
- Why the affirmation videos on YouTube are crap
- Why visualizations work (the human brain is stupid)
- Why meditation works (and why it’s not all incense and beanbags)
- Pain Management (and how to calm the ‘oh shit it hurts’ brain)
- Ho’oponopono (forgive yourself and free up more brain space)
You choose what you want to try for thirty days, then use the freebies to help you along the way.
Sign Me Up!
Well gorgeous, you have to do that.
Samantha is a well-liked Life Coach, specializing in self-esteem and body image with qualifications in Mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Skilled Helping. She speaks on several panels around the internet in this regard.
Samantha Dee is the Author of ‘My Big Fat…Fat’ and ‘The Thirty Day Wellness Journal’. Her next book, ‘My Big Fat…Kitchen’ is due out soon.
Samantha Dee really helped me clarify what was holding me back from doing my daily practice. Since we talked, I didn't stop and my practice became my daily routine. Samantha is very supportive and have great listening skills.
26th November 2018
Feeling really grateful for having had such a great breakthrough session with Samantha last night. My expectations going in were far surpassed. I hadn't expected a breakthrough (despite the name of the session) yet Samantha got me there with some really important questions I hadn't thought to ask myself and by relating to my current fear of taking a leap of faith and commit to my new career choice. The best thing about the session was the practical suggestions to help me take action. Not only did we identify the problem but I came away motivated, inspired and with a next action. Pretty good for an hour right? Thank you so much Samantha.
13th November 2018